so i'm 37 and i've only been with one man, my ex-husband, in my entire life.
i just started a new relationship with a wonderful man but i'm fighting the preprogramming that comes from being a dub for 35 years.
how have other people overcome the inhibitions and issues that come from the ridiculously rigid sexual mindset of the wtbs?
I just hate how sick and panicky I feel everytime we're intimate at all, and I'm talking just kissing, let alone anything more advanced.
Have you explored WHY you feel this way when you are with him? Did you have bad experiences with your ex? Is it the JW brainwashing in the back of your mind? Are you afraid the angels will strike you down? lol
Honestly, you just need to relax and enjoy things. don't worry about what he thinks, or what you think, there is no right or wrong here.
so i'm 37 and i've only been with one man, my ex-husband, in my entire life.
i just started a new relationship with a wonderful man but i'm fighting the preprogramming that comes from being a dub for 35 years.
how have other people overcome the inhibitions and issues that come from the ridiculously rigid sexual mindset of the wtbs?
Is the JW brainwashing the only thing holding you back? If you really want to be with him, be with him. Sex is not a bad thing, and sex doesn't even have to be within a commited relationship, it can just be two people filling a need.
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people are driving for miles to the few shops that have opened....many pioneers leave there own congregation territory to buy some 1 hour drive away....i took a box to my witness work mates...they acted like i was giving them gold!
poor witnesses.
they do taste excellent fresh....coffee shops like "starbucks" never took off here....were not big on coffee.
I remember when they finally came to Ontario. My brother in law drove the hour to buy dozens of them and freeze them. Everyone thought they were sooooo great. Yuck, the worst thing I ever tasted. We had one open in my city, lasted about a year before it closed. You can still buy them at Wal-Mart though.
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my best friend, who is *gasp* "worldly" had a semi-major surgery monday.
she had asked me if she could recooperate at my place.
it's nice and quiet at my place and besides, she knows i'll spoil her rotten.. yesterday (thursday) i had to take her to her doctor's for a post surgery check when i got off of work.
I got the same thing from the elders while taking care of my ill JW parents. We lived in the same city, different congs. Both had serious health issues, and many times I'd get a phone call asking if I could come over right away for some emergency, and there were times this happened to be on my meeting night, as I was dressed and ready to go out the door. During a "shepherding call", when asked why I was missing so many meetings, I explained the situation. The elder asked if my parents knew when my meeting was, I said yes I'm sure they do. His response was for me to tell them that I'm going to the meeting and if they still need my help after the meeting I'll come over then . After that I couldn't go to a meeting and see this elder at the KH, I was so disgusted.
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dear friends,.
much of what we do on a daily basis is routine and of no particular, earth-shaking importance.
however, after reviewing letters of family going back to wwii, it is fascinating to read what dad was doing on board the aircraft carrier in the pacific on any old day, what mom was cooking on her ever-steaming range, how i was dealing with the roller coaster of emotion at bethel [mom saved all my letters], how nana wrote that she would not study with the witnesses [per my request] but 'here are some mittens i knitted for you when you canvass new york with your magazines.
Yesterday afternoon I powerwashed, scrubbed and powerwashed my deck, getting it ready to stain hopefully Friday if there is no rain in the forecast. My hands were all numb and tingly for a long time afterwards from the powerwasher!
We had the coolest rain storm come through about 7pm or so. The sky was an eerie almost yellow colour, never seen anything like it. Took most of the humidity away, it's a pleasant day out today.
Today I'm cleaning the shed, ugh. Squirrels have gotten in there and nested, it's a mess! A stinky yucky mess!
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i am a sister that kind of "fell away" from the organization.
i felt that i wasn't accepted by my brothers and sisters (long, long story).
whatever i did i wasn't "perfect" enough.
Personally, I would say, HAVE A GREAT LIFE AND WALK AWAY.
Good advice.
One question - WHY would you want to go to the elders about the affair? I think you need to examine the motive behind the question before a real answer could be given.
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This was and still is, something that my step mother finds very upsetting. The first Sunday meeting we went to after my dad died was on this subject. She was late as usual, and we had to sit right up at the front. I kind of felt sorry for the speaker. My step mother has been to the elders several times asking for clarification on this.
There is another spin on this, step children. As a child I always wondered what would happen when my mother was resurrected. What would my family be like? I wanted MY family back, but according to this teaching, that wouldn't happen. I used to have dreams where we''d be sitting at the dinner table, my dad, step mom, younger siblings, and my mother was looking in the window watching us. What a terrible thing for a child to have to worry about.
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do you look like your jwd profile pic?.
just curious.. that stupid pic of me in a columbia rain jacket is real.
it's 2 yrs.
This is me last Friday, as Wonder Woman lol
..or any online dating website.
my friends want me to try being that i have horrible luck with men.
i've never tried any of these websites but i'm kinda thinking eh why not.
Talk to Mr Flipper about this, he met his wife on EHarmony, and they have a wonderful relationship.
dear friends,.
much of what we do on a daily basis is routine and of no particular, earth-shaking importance.
however, after reviewing letters of family going back to wwii, it is fascinating to read what dad was doing on board the aircraft carrier in the pacific on any old day, what mom was cooking on her ever-steaming range, how i was dealing with the roller coaster of emotion at bethel [mom saved all my letters], how nana wrote that she would not study with the witnesses [per my request] but 'here are some mittens i knitted for you when you canvass new york with your magazines.
Yesterday I went to my nephew's birthday party. It was a combined bd for him and his uncle (my sister in law's brother). The theme was Super Hero's. I was Wonder Woman lol. This was the very first time I've ever dressed up in a costume, and I did fell a bit silly, but it was fun. We even made a trip to the Beer Store, my brother, the other bd boy and one of the other girls there. You should have seen the looks we got! lol Everyone came out of the back for a look and the customers were trying to hide their laughter hee hee. The one woman said "I just gotta ask" and I said we had lost a bet lol. Then we told them about the bd party. We got the whole thing on video as well!!
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